why your toddler is still having tantrums

Hey Mama!

 Do you feel like you are doing something wrong because your toddler is still having tantrums?

With my first, I went down the rabbit hole of punishments… corrections… whatever you want to call it… in order to get the behavior to stop.

I was so focused on the tantrum itself… the bad behavior.. that I never stopped to think about the WHY behind it.

Last week, I shared the REAL reason your toddler is having so many tantrums (you can watch it below): 

I have struggled with realistic expectations for my kids.

More often than not, I am expecting them to behave WAY beyond their age.

And truthfully, most moms in my practice struggle with knowing what’s appropriate behavior for their child’s age. I think this is because:

• Our parents generation believed in kids should be seen not heard.
• Social Media shows only the Highlights of a Child
• We haven’t been modeled what a “normal” childhood should look like.

Even the most well-meaning parents, haven’t necessarily modeled what normal childhood development looks like.

So us modern moms are parenting from a place of expectation vs trusting our intuition.

I know what you are thinking, but WHAT IS age appropriate? How do I know?

This has been a huge hurdle for me because there isn’t a manual that lays it out in a pretty table for me to check.

This is when I began diving into the Nervous System (and its development) along with brain science. 

The book the Whole Brain Child (check it out here) is a great one if you want to gain some knowledge about this too.

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But after doing this work, I’m more interested in being attuned to my intuition.

I want to trust that I will know when something isn’t developmentally appropriate.

This has happened through a process of reconnecting to myself, having mindsight with my children, and letting go of what society tells me is “normal.”

Of course this approach takes a lot of self-responsibility and inner work, but it feels absolutely worth it to me!

Hope you have a good rest of your week!

-Alexis